Exercising Patience: What Gardening and Parenting Have in Common

Exercising Patience: What Gardening and Parenting Have in Common
Spring has arrived on the calendar, if not in my backyard in Maine.  With the longer days and slowly increasing temperatures, my thoughts often turn to for outdoor projects.  I plan out my vegetable garden, uncover my flower beds, and wait for signs of growth. Sometimes, this seems to be an interminable waiting game, requiring ...

It’s Not Your Fault! The Lesson I Learned Parenting a Difficult Child

It’s Not Your Fault! The Lesson I Learned Parenting a Difficult Child
As an infant, my daughter was a fairly easy baby. As long as her needs were met, she was an easy child, very alert and highly social. However the older she got, and the more her idea of what to do conflicted with what I wanted her to do, the more “difficult” she became. She ...

Want to Become a Better Parent? Take it One Step at a Time

Want to Become a Better Parent? Take it One Step at a Time
Here we are, about a month into the New Year. Did you make any resolutions? How are those coming along? If you are like a lot of people, you start off really strong out of the gate. You keep up with the changes until something happens that sends you back to pre-New Year behaviors. Maybe ...

Yell Less by Saying “No” More

The temptation is there, folks. Oh, is it ever there!  School has been in session for a short bit, and there are so many new opportunities to say “yes.” And many parents, me included, are tempted to say “yes” to everything. “Yes” to being class parent. “Yes” to helping with the fundraiser. “Yes” to this ...

You Can Make Time for Yourself

I am the type of person that wants it all, and I want it all NOW. This mentality makes me feel like I’m perpetually chasing a bus I cannot catch, no matter how fast I sprint.  Some days, it feels like an enormous task to just get everyone fed and into bed at the end ...

How to Pull Back and Let Your Kids Struggle

“I can do it Mom!!!” she says confidently as she takes the knife and starts digging into the peanut butter jar.  Trying to pull it out, the knife flicks up, and I duck as a chunk of peanut butter flies past me.  “Oops!  Sorry, Mom.” “That’s okay sweetheart,” I smile back at her. Getting the ...

Why I Yell At My Kids

Hi, my name is “The Orange Rhino” and I yell at my kids. Actually, I should say that I used to yell at my kids. All the time.  For whining, fighting with each other, leaving toys out, not listening to me, refusing to get in the bath…the list could go on and on. I used ...

Chasing the Myth

A little while before my son was born, I started on a quest to track one the world’s most elusive creatures. There have been times when I think I am really, really close and have caught glimpses of this rare beast over the past 20 years. I’ve seen something out of the corner of my ...

Keeping Quiet

In the day-to-day of parenting, it can be excruciating to keep my mouth shut at times. Since I clearly know what is best, it seems like it is my duty to share that with my lovely children. If I don’t tell them what to do and how to do it, how will they learn? When ...

Tracking Changes in My Parenting: A Before and After Look

Sometimes transformation can be hard to see when you are in the middle of making changes in your life.  There was a situation soon after I started down the Peaceful Parenting road when I realized, “Hey, this stuff’s really sinking in!” Today, I want to give you a “Before and After snapshot” of the major ...