Exercising Patience: What Gardening and Parenting Have in Common

Exercising Patience: What Gardening and Parenting Have in Common
Spring has arrived on the calendar, if not in my backyard in Maine.  With the longer days and slowly increasing temperatures, my thoughts often turn to for outdoor projects.  I plan out my vegetable garden, uncover my flower beds, and wait for signs of growth. Sometimes, this seems to be an interminable waiting game, requiring ...

It’s Not Your Fault! The Lesson I Learned Parenting a Difficult Child

It’s Not Your Fault! The Lesson I Learned Parenting a Difficult Child
As an infant, my daughter was a fairly easy baby. As long as her needs were met, she was an easy child, very alert and highly social. However the older she got, and the more her idea of what to do conflicted with what I wanted her to do, the more “difficult” she became. She ...

Positive Behavior Management

I can remember my early days as a newly qualified teacher, when I would try to address inappropriate behavior in the classroom.  Frequently, I would attempt to maintain discipline by entering into “win-lose” situations.  After attending several behavior management courses, I found that it was far more effective to adopt a positive behavior management model. ...

You Can Make Time for Yourself

I am the type of person that wants it all, and I want it all NOW. This mentality makes me feel like I’m perpetually chasing a bus I cannot catch, no matter how fast I sprint.  Some days, it feels like an enormous task to just get everyone fed and into bed at the end ...

Chasing the Myth

A little while before my son was born, I started on a quest to track one the world’s most elusive creatures. There have been times when I think I am really, really close and have caught glimpses of this rare beast over the past 20 years. I’ve seen something out of the corner of my ...

Tracking Changes in My Parenting: A Before and After Look

Sometimes transformation can be hard to see when you are in the middle of making changes in your life.  There was a situation soon after I started down the Peaceful Parenting road when I realized, “Hey, this stuff’s really sinking in!” Today, I want to give you a “Before and After snapshot” of the major ...

Ask 1-on-1 Coaching: Can You Demand Respect From Your Kids?

Parents frequently call me on the 1-on-1 Coaching line to discuss respect. Some will say, “The ONLY thing I ask from my child is that they respect me.” They reason that if they are respected, their child will do everything they are asked to do, will not say anything impolite, and will be motivated by ...